May 31, 2014 at 1:00 am

Dear Abby: Jeanne Phillips

Refusal to drink makes woman feel out of step with her peers

Dear Abby: Iím 20 years old. My boyfriend and I donít drink. Almost everyone my age does, and itís starting to get to me. Iíd love to have friends besides my boyfriend I can hang out with, but I find I only connect with him because everyone else always wants to go out and party. He is an introvert, so the seclusion doesnít bother him. I am greatly bothered by it.

I have always been ahead of the curve in terms of people my age. I have more in common with 30-year-olds than people in college. Unfortunately, I would feel weird spending time with 30-year-olds, and Iím sure theyíd feel the same about spending time with me. Most of my spare time is spent with my family. They just seem to get me.

How can I find people my age who think the way I do? I donít want to be the kind of girl who only spends time with her boyfriend. I would appreciate other relationships.

Liz in New Jersey

Dear Liz: I agree that itís time to expand your circle of acquaintances. Thatís why Iím advising you to join a gym or some other physical activity group and start meeting people who are involved in physical fitness. None of the ones I know want to spend their time drinking and partying because they are more interested in eating and living healthfully. Iím sure if you try it, you will meet others who think the way you do.

Dear Abby: Iím 15, and all of my friends my age and a grade lo≠wer have their belly buttons pier≠ced. I have been asking my mom for a very long time and she does≠nít have a problem with it, but my dad does. He wonít let me get it done because he doesnít want me looking like trash at this age.

I donít want it to impress boys; I want it for my own beauty and to look good with a cute jewel to go with my summer outfits or bathing suits. They said to ask you if you think itís wrong to have a belly button pierced at the age of 15. Is it wrong?

Kylie in Washington

Dear Kylie: I donít think that having a belly button pierced is a question of right or wrong. I suspect that your fatherís objection ó and Iím not sure I disagree with him ó is that he would prefer you make an impression by attracting attention in some other way. Iím suggesting you hold off for now and have it done when youíre older ó providing you havenít changed your mind by then.

Dear Abby: 1. What do you call a person who is neither a morning lark nor a night owl? (Thatís me.)

2. What do you call someone who is neither a giver nor a taker? (Thatís me, too.)

Your answers will help me win a delicious meal!

Inquisitive in Ottawa

Dear Inquisitive: A person who is neither a lark nor a night owl is called a robin. Someone who is neither a giver nor a taker is probably a loner.

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