July 25, 2014 at 1:00 am

Dear Abby: Jeanne Phillips

Tyke hits mom when she takes back cellphone

Dear Abby: When my friend Fran and I get together with our kids, they often play games on her cellphone until the battery dies. If she tries to take the phone from her 6-year-old to make a call or recharge the phone, he starts yelling at her, pushes her, pulls her skirt and hits her. Her reaction is to hug him and start praying for the devil to get out of his body in Jesus name as he continues to hit her.

While I respect Frans religion, Im appalled at his violent behavior, concerned that he will grow up thinking its OK to hit people, and I think this should be handled differently. What do you think? Should I say something? And if so, what can I say so as not to hurt her feelings?

Appalled by the Violence

Dear Appalled: By now Fran knows what will happen when she lets her son play with her cellphone. The boy may act this way because his mom never taught him how to deal with frustration in a healthy way.

Whether his outbursts are the result of poor parenting or an emotional disability, be less concerned about hurting Frans feelings than about whether her son could seriously hurt her in a year or two. Tell her this and urge her to discuss the boys behavior with his pediatrician before his problems get worse and he becomes unmanageable.

Dear Abby: I recently got married. The week before our wedding, my husband was so hateful and hard to get along with that I wasnt sure what was going on with him. When I asked if he was sure he still wanted to get married, he would say yes.

On our wedding day, he brought up his ex-wifes name twice making snide remarks. Still, he married me. He has slept downstairs every night since our wedding. Our marriage has yet to be consummated.

So tell me, Abby, whats his problem? Im miserable!

Miserable Bride in Ohio

Dear Bride: The only person who can answer that question is your husband. Clearly, he is not happy either. Tell him that you are worried about him and ask him to level with you. Offer him the option of marriage counseling, but if he refuses, then, frankly, you both may be better off if this marriage is annulled.

Dear Abby: Im in my 30s and have a tattoo on my forearm that I now regret getting. I try to wear sweaters so no one will notice. In the past when people discovered I have a tattoo, they have judged me, so I ended up feeling ashamed of myself.

I am debating having it removed or I could go to driving school to become a long-haul trucker. Both options are expensive, and Im undecided about which to do. Can you advise me?

Torn in San Antone

Dear Torn: Its a hard choice, but truck drivers make good money, so you may be on to something. Once you have the money, you could have the tattoo removed, if you still want to, so Im voting for driving school.

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