Dear Abby: I am 19, and because of some traumatic events in my past, Iím afraid of the dark and sleep with my baby blanket.
I went to counseling about it, but eventually stopped because it didnít help. I havenít had any real problems as a result of the issue because I live at home and my boyfriend has been supportive in accommodating my needs when I stay with him.
Plus, I donít need my blanket when Iím with him.
My concern is about the upcoming semester. I will have to move to the main campus of my university in order to continue my education. This means Iíll be living in a shared dorm.
The two times it came up during high school, I was teased mercilessly until something else came along. While I have reached the point where I can go without my blanket for a few nights, any longer and it starts to get to me.
I donít want to have problems when I move to the main campus because Iím already going to stand out for moving in the middle of the year, but I donít know how to keep training myself to give up my blanket.
Dear Still Scared: You might not have to. I have a suggestion that might be helpful, but it would require having your blanket converted into a ďhuggie pillow.Ē
That way you can still sleep with it but it would no longer resemble a baby blanket. Many people sleep with an extra pillow, so it wouldnít appear to be odd at all.
Dear Abby: My vegetarian, wonít-harm-a-fly husband owns two handguns. They were bought before I met him. He knows I donít approve. I have always felt strongly about not raising children in a home where guns are kept.
His argument for having them is that he distrusts our government. He claims the guns will protect our family if there is ever an uprising or a riot.
While I support his desire to protect our family, Iím frightened by the much more immediate possibility of an accident happening, or the children finding them and harming themselves or someone else.
We plan to start a family in the near future, and I have tried to talk him into either getting rid of the guns or storing them elsewhere. Every time I raise the subject, it turns into an argument and he insists he wonít get rid of them. Iím at a loss about how to resolve this problem.
Dear Unwilling: Would your vegetarian, wouldnít-harm-a-fly husband consider trigger locks for his weapons or a gun safe?
If not, then perhaps you should consider raising your children with a man who isnít already married to his guns.
Dear Abby: What do you do if you like a teacher? Do you just hide it? He always comes to my table and I canít focus because I get so distracted. I think heís very good-looking. Iím 13 and heís 23.
What should I do?
Dear Crushing: What youíre experiencing happens in countless classrooms and itís perfectly normal. Unless youíre an accomplished actress, hiding your feelings would be like trying to smuggle dawn past a rooster.
Function as best you can, and donít stare at him because it could be embarrassing for him. If you want to impress him, be his top-achieving pupil. The strong emotions youíre feeling will fade once an attractive young man your age appears on the horizon. Trust me on that, because Iím speaking from experience.
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