Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Mark,” and I have been together for a year. Several months ago we were offered a job opportunity in another state. We moved in together and are happy.
My problem is, over the past few months we have been living together, our personal relationship has come to a halt. We still care about each other deeply, but no longer do the things couples do. We don’t go out on dates or see the new city we’ve moved to.
Do you have any advice on how I can get Mark to go out and see the sights without sounding whiny or pushy?
Baltimore and D.C. Beckon
Dear Baltimore: Tell Mark the two of you appear to have become housebound and you don’t think it’s healthy — particularly because Baltimore and Washington, D.C., have many entertainment and cultural opportunities. Then create a “bucket list” and have him choose from the choices that are available. If that doesn’t inspire him, ask HIM to create a list, or start exploring on your own.
If you are successful at getting Mark out of the house, it may liven up your relationship. But if it doesn’t, you may have more serious problems to deal with, and a heart-to-heart talk with him about your entire relationship is in order.
Dear Buck: One way to handle it would be to be proactive and tell Anita that what she did was rude and you didn’t like it. Another would be to inform the cashier that what Anita wanted was not OK with you, and to never do it again. Whichever you decide, don’t be afraid of hurting Anita’s feelings because she has a hide of steel.
Dear Abby: My wife and I disagree about when and where it is acceptable to yawn. I believe a public yawn during dinner or conversation is not appropriate. She sees no reason why a natural human trait such as yawning should be stifled.
Again, my assertion is that yawning denotes boredom or lack of interest in what people are conversing about or doing. What are your thoughts?
Not a Yawner in Flagstaff, Ariz.
Dear Not a Yawner: My thoughts are similar to an observation made by English writer G.K. Chesterton (1874- 1936), who said, “A yawn is a silent shout.” I have never seen anyone who is intensely interested in something yawn, and to do it in the presence of others implies that the yawner is tired, bored or otherwise not fully engaged.
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