Dear Abby: Neither of my parents do anything for fun. When Dad comes home from work, he either reads the newspaper or takes a nap. If Mom has free time after finishing the housework or running errands, she watches the news on TV or goes to bed early.
I never thought it was unusual because itís been this way since I was growing up. But once I was in high school, I started hearing classmates talk about their parentsí friends or hobbies and I realized mine are different. They donít even listen to music or read books.
When I want to go out with friends, my parents act annoyed and wonder why I want to go out instead of staying at home. Are there other people out there like this, or are my folks unusual?
Mystified in Maine
Dear Mystified: At the end of a busy day, many people want to simply unwind rather than look for things to do. Reading the newspaper, napping or watching the television news are some of the ways they do that. While your parents may be more introverted than those of your classmates, I donít think they are particularly unusual.
The question you should ask yourself is, ďIs their relationship working for them?Ē And if the answer is yes, be glad. Whatís natural for some families isnít for everyone, and neither is their idea of whatís fun.
Dear Abby: Iím 15, a girl and my favorite teacher, ďMr. Brown,Ē is going to another state with ot≠her teachers to start a new scho≠ol. Iíll miss him dearly because he is funny and charismatic.
We have an average student-teacher relationship, but I still would like to stay in contact with him and see how heís doing. Is there any way I can maintain our relationship and contact him on my own to show that I miss him?
Teen in New Haven
Dear Teen: If he hasnít already left your district, I suppose you could tell him he has been your favorite teacher and ask for his email address. He may be willing to share it with you, but if he and the other teachers are starting a new school, you can bet they are going to be extremely busy and focused on that ó so he may not be able to respond as often as you might wish.
Dear Abby: Iím under lots of stress, but the woman Iím with doesnít know it. Iím 17, and have been sleeping with my 38-year-old aunty. Sheís married and has three children. I canít stop doing it. I think Iím in love with her.
I know this is wrong. Help.
Lovesick Teen in the U.K.
Dear Lovesick: Being ďin loveĒ shouldnít cause stress; it should relieve it. You know what you are doing is wrong, and YOU must be the adult and end this relationship. If you donít, it will bring heartache and turmoil to you and the rest of the family. Your aunt is behaving like a sexual predator.
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