Dear Abby: I am an 18-year-old high school senior who is scared about what’s going to happen after graduation. For the past three years I’ve known exactly where I’ll be and what I will be doing in the general sense. Now that I have one more year to go, I’m worried that I won’t know what to do or how to do it when I graduate. I have talked to counselors and my dad, but they all say the same thing. Any advice?
Uneasy in Idaho
Dear Uneasy: Sit down someplace quiet and make a list of what your interests and talents are. If necessary, next year visit the career counseling department of your nearest community college or university and take some aptitude tests. This will give you an idea of what direction you may want to go in deciding what you should do next.
Unlike in generations past, people today sometimes change careers several times in their working lives, so don’t be afraid that you’ll be stuck in some unpleasant rut forever. The more you learn and the more people you meet, the greater your options will be, so stop worrying.
Dear Abby: I’m a 30-year-old woman. I take care of myself, exercise regularly and have a healthy diet. I’m naturally VERY thin, and the diet and exercise actually help me to gain and keep weight on my otherwise “skinny” frame.
My issue is people who seem to think my weight is an OK topic of discussion, light ridicule or even harsh accusation (anorexia, bulimia, etc.). I am self-conscious about my “chicken legs” and having a “bony butt.” How can I tell people that commenting on my weight is rude without creating an issue or causing drama?
Weighty Issue in D.C.
Dear Weighty Issue: Of course it’s rude, and the comments you’re receiving may have in them an element of jealousy. A nonconfrontational way to handle it would be to pleasantly assure people these concerned individuals that your doctor has assured you that you are fine. Then change the subject.
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