September 4, 2014 at 1:00 am

Dear Abby: Jeanne Phillips

Mom's snoring pierces plans to share a room

Dear Abby: My sonís out-of-town wedding is coming up. My mother will attend and be traveling with me. I am single, and my mom is also single. Sheís planning on sharing a room with me.

Abby, my mom has a severe snoring problem, and Iím a very light sleeper. I cannot sleep with a snorer! I donít want to ruin my time at my sonís wedding, and sheís upset about the added expense of another room, which neither of us can really afford.

Mother of the Groom

Dear Mother of the Groom: The separate room may be a luxury you canít ďreally afford,Ē but incurring the expense may be worth it so you wonít sleepwalk through your sonís wedding. Iím not recommending earplugs because, while they may dull the racket, they wonít completely eliminate the sound of severe snoring.

P.S. If your momís doctor doe≠snít know about her snoring, it should be discussed so the doctor can make sure it isnít a symptom of a serious health problem.

Dear Abby: My son has two children who are in temporary foster care, and has visitation with the exís stepsister, who got the right to grant visitation. Recently, we had a birthday party for them. All the grandparents, aunts and uncles were invited. It was a kiddie party, of course, and I jumped into the pool and played with the children. We had a ball!

A few weeks later, I heard the stepsisterís mother had said I had ďno businessĒ playing in the pool with the kids. I was taken aback. Isnít that what grandmas are for? I love playing with the little ones.

Was I wrong for not ďacting my ageĒ? Did I make a fool of myself? The custody fight is ongoing and I donít want to do anything that would jeopardize my son winning custody.

Worried in New York

Dear Worried: I donít think you did anything inappropriate. I suspect the stepsisterís mother was jealous that she wasnít the person in the pool, which is why she didnít speak up during the party and you had to hear it weeks later secondhand.

Dear Abby: On July 31 you printed my question about throwing a 25th anniversary party for my parents. I want to let you know that instead of taking on an expensive dinner that I canít afford right now, Iím collaborating with a cousin to have a chef come into their home to prepare a nice meal for them and the people who participated in their wedding. I felt it was a much more personal and cost-effective way to give them the nice anniversary they deserve. Thank you for your advice!

Son of Silvers

Dear S.O.S.: Iím delighted you wrote to share your solution. The idea is terrific. I am sure your parents will be thrilled and other readers will appreciate your ingenuity. Thank you!

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