Dear Abby: I met a guy over the phone when he called my number by mistake. After a brief conversation, not particularly polite on my part, the call ended. Forty-five minutes later he called me back, saying he couldn't stop thinking about me. I thought, "Who is this goofball?"

Over time, my phone has been "pinging" with messages from him. He has sent his life story, photos and address. He even gave me his Social Security number and told me to run a check on him to see for myself that he's legitimate. We have been talking for eight months and are making plans to meet. He lives in another state, but he has a sister in mine.

Should I meet him in his hometown or let him come to me? I don't believe this is a game-playing situation. I am 55 years young; he's 64. We converse on FaceTime daily and at night we have Bible studies together via the Internet. He makes me happy. What is your opinion, and what should I do?

Swept Away in Georgia

Dear Swept Away: Your romance seems almost like a Hallmark Channel love story — two strangers who connect because of a wrong number. However, have him visit you first, meet your family, friends and minister. THEN visit him in his hometown and meet HIS friends, children (if he has any), minister, etc.

Don't do this just once — give yourself enough time to get beyond the endorphin rush. He may turn out to be Prince Charming, but a woman can never be too careful, and you need to proceed with your eyes wide open. If this becomes a successful relationship, it will be a wonderful "how did you meet?" story.

Dear Abby: I'm a 25-year-old woman and lonely. I'm interested in a guy I've known for years. He's my older brother's friend, and we're only six years apart. When I showed my interest in him, he politely let me know he would not date me because of my brother.

Is there a secret code that I'm missing? Is it taboo for a man who is your older brother's friend to date the younger sibling?

I'm confused as to why it would matter, since we are both adults.

Lonely in Wisconsin

Dear Lonely: While it isn't "taboo" to date the sibling of a close friend, it can lead to complications if the relationship doesn't work out. Friendships have become strained or ended because of it.

Not knowing the man you have your sights set on, I can't speculate whether the reason he gave you was the truth. It could also be that the feelings you have for him are not reciprocated, but regardless — now that you know he isn't interested, it's time to look elsewhere for someone to assuage your loneliness.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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