Abby: Search for husband stumbles
Dear Abby: I am a 21-year-old woman from the Philippines. I have been insecure all my life. I know I have a pretty face, but I have a lot of scars on my legs from my childhood. Because of this I am depressed, unhappy and insecure.
I never wear shorts, skirts or dresses that show my legs.
Do you think there is some guy somewhere who will love me despite my scars?
I’m well aware that guys like sexy ladies with flawless skin. I hate the way my legs look, and I doubt I will ever find a husband.
Please help me.
Dear Insecure: Please quit putting yourself down. Sometimes we women can be our most severe critics. If you stop looking for reasons men won’t like you and start concentrating on why they WILL, you may have better luck.
Men like women who are fun to be around, who are kind, intelligent, honest and who don’t play games.
A man who would reject you because of scars on your legs is not a person you need for a lasting, meaningful relationship.
Dear Abby: My dog got my neighbor’s dog pregnant, and my neighbor kept it secret so she can sell the pups and keep all the money. I know this because her son told me so.
My dog died this week and I really want one of the puppies. I can’t afford to buy one at $300.
Does the family of the father of the pups have any rights?
Missing My Doggie
Dear Missing Your Doggie: Pets are supposed to be spayed or neutered to prevent this sort of thing from happening.
I’m sorry for the loss of your beloved dog.
If the pregnancy was unplanned, the owner of the female is not obligated to provide a puppy or compensation to the owner of the male. Perhaps, out of compassion, your neighbor will relent and give one to you.
Dear Abby: I raised my children to stay with me when we were in a store. They didn’t touch things displayed on the shelves because the items were not theirs and we weren’t going to purchase them. We didn’t have cellphones when my children grew up. However, even now I never remove mine from my purse while I’m in a store.
Is there a nice way to tell other shoppers to put their phones away and pay attention to their children while shopping, and suggest that it might not be safe for their kids to run through the aisles or roll canned goods down them? I am not sure about their children’s safety, but I’m positive it isn’t safe for me when their children are acting this way.
Meme in the West
Dear Meme: No, I don’t think there is. You appear to be part of a generation that had the time (or took the time) to teach these things to their kids.
I agree that children should be taught to respect the property of others and to ask before touching it. I also agree that leaving items in an aisle could be dangerous to shoppers whose attention may be fixed on the store shelves instead of the floor.
But because so many parents today seem to have “forgotten” to convey these important lessons, then caveat emptor — but in this case, let the shopper beware.
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