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Abby: Clothing-optional lifestyle causes wife grief

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: My husband enjoys sitting around (among other activities) naked. We live in a subdivision with 700 homes. I’ve asked him repeatedly to stop, join a nudist group or go home to his mom — whatever! He says sorry, but it doesn’t stop.

I’m afraid the cops will catch him without a stitch on and all hell will break loose. Am I crazy to expect him to stay clothed in semi-public?

Teresa in The South

Dear Teresa: I’m sorry you didn’t define “semi-public.” It’s one thing for a person to “let it all hang out” in the privacy of his (or her) home or fenced backyard. It’s another for someone to fully expose himself in public view. It appears you’ve married an exhibitionist who could be arrested for indecent exposure if a neighbor chooses to complain. If this is what’s happening, you’re not crazy; you are a concerned wife.

Dear Abby: My daughter’s elementary school has many fundraisers where kids are asked to sell things like takeout pizza coupons and cheap wrapping paper to raise money for schoolwide events. I’m happy to support the school, but do not want her to participate in the selling.

She’s too little to go door-to-door or make phone calls on her own, so I do it for her. I’m very uncomfortable when individuals ask me to buy things. I don’t want to put that kind of pressure on others. Also, some of the items for sale are unhealthy or not things we’d use, so it seems wrong to ask others to buy them.

Instead of selling, where they only get a small portion of the funds, I’d rather donate directly to the school. However, I’m not sure how to do that without making our family stand out in this very small community.

When a new fundraiser is announced, should I ask how much our share is and then write a check? I’m afraid I’d be inviting gossip about being too stuck up or wealthy to participate (we are neither). And how do I explain to my 7-year-old why I don’t think she should be selling things, without seeming critical of her friends who are?

Just Want To Donate in Iowa

Dear Just: This is a concern you should discuss with the person who is in charge of the fundraiser. If you prefer to donate the money you would be expected to raise, rather than have your child solicit door-to-door, your wishes should be respected because the result will be the same for her school. Frankly, I think you have a point.

Dear Abby: My mother and I disagree about what to do if a child is invited to a birthday party but is unable to attend. Mom says you should still buy a present for the honoree.

Unsure in California

Dear Unsure: Buying a gift for the birthday child would be a very thoughtful gesture, but it is not required.

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