Abby: 3 cats become a crowd in 1-bedroom apartment

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: My girlfriend and I live together. We adopted a cat off the street. A few months later, the cat became pregnant and had four kittens. We ended up keeping two, and now we have three cats in a one-bedroom apartment.

I’ve tried being OK with it, but it’s making me unhappy. The litter box must be constantly cleaned; they get into our food and pee on our furniture.

I’ve tried talking to my girlfriend about putting one or two of them up for adoption, but every time I raise the issue, she gets mad and dares me to get rid of them. I don’t want her to resent me, but I also don’t like living in the circumstances I’m living in. Please help.

Surrounded By Cats

Dear Surrounded: You and your girlfriend appear to be irresponsible pet owners. I hope you realize that if the stray cat you adopted had been spayed, this could have been avoided. The litter box should be cleaned regularly and, because the cats belong to both of you, the responsibility should be shared. If the cats urinate on the furniture, it should be discussed with a vet rather than disposing of them.

That said, you aren’ married. If you’re not happy, perhaps it’s time to consider moving.

Dear Abby: I really need your help. I’m 13 and I know I’m a little young, but there’s a boy I’ve known for a while. We used to text all the time, and then we got into a fight. We both said rude things, and after a while he started talking to me again, acting like he didn’t care and he told me that. Then we stopped talking again and he blocked me on Instagram.

Well, this school year he came to my school, and he’s very popular. He stares at me every day when we pass each other and once he said hi to me.

What I’m confused about is why does he keep unblocking me and blocking me on social media? Why is he doing what he’s done? I hope you can help.

Blocked in Missouri

Dear Blocked: The first time he blocked you, he probably did it to punish you for having hurt his feelings during the fight. Now he may be doing it to get a rise out of you, or because for some reason he doesn’t want you to be able to see what he’s saying and doing.

The opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s indifference. Because he stares at you in the hallway, I suspect he still likes you. Don’t chase him — just be patient and let this play out because it could be interesting.

Dear Abby: My neighbor often comes over to share some of her home cooking. Unfortunately, it tastes horrible. She invariably asks me the next day how I liked it, and I really don’t enjoy lying. How can I tell her I don’t like her cooking and I don’t want her to bring me any more?

Tender Tummy

in Washington

Dear Tender Tummy: Use a variation on your signature and say that although you appreciate her generosity, for some time her cooking hasn’t agreed with you — you have a “tender tummy” — so please refrain from bringing over any more food.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.