Abby: His long fingernails touchy for girlfriend

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: I am a 65-year-old widow and recently started dating a 66-year-old man. I really like him and enjoy his company.

However, one thing about him drives me up a wall. He has long fingernails on both hands. He is neat and tidy and otherwise well groomed. I am quite sure he is not a coke user (which some have suggested could be the reason).

He has told me his hobby is guitar playing, but for that I’d think he would only need a few long nails. I feel I don’t know him well enough to ask why he keeps them so long or tell him how much this creeps me out.

How would you suggest I bring this up to him?

Dianne in Wisconsin

Dear Dianne: The gentleman’s hobby may be guitar playing, but in order for him to form the chords he strums, his nails on one hand would have to be short. I can’t think of a nice way to tell someone his nails “creep you out.”

However, I don’t think it would be out of line to ask why he wears his nails as long as he does, and let him explain it to you.

Dear Abby: My best friend, “Donna,” and I are former co-workers. She divorced recently but has hooked up — and is shacking up — with a co-worker of mine, “James.” James and I work on the same shift every weekend. Ugh!

James invited a woman to the job for a lunch date. Should I say something to Donna? I’m not a fan of his because he seemed sneaky before the “lunch date.” Donna says she’s happy. We limit our conversation about him because I hate to badmouth him knowing how she feels about him. But I’m bothered knowing he didn’t care enough to not let on to me about his infidelity. It’s like he wants ME to bring the bad news. I haven’t, but I need to know how to proceed.

My husband says I should mind my own business to keep work stress-free. What is your advice?

Hates Workplace Drama

Dear H.W.D.: For now, I’m voting with your husband. One lunch date is not an affair, and you don’t know what James’ relationship with the woman may be. It could be innocent, so give him the benefit of the doubt.

However, if he continues to bring her around, I can see how you might want to ask Donna who the woman is. That’s not bringing bad news; it’s an innocent question.

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