Abby: Widow’s thoughtful beau is generous to a fault

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: I’m a widow and have been seeing someone for two years. He often stays at my home. He treats me well, but we have different tastes in furnishings. He brings me trinkets and tacky accessories from his home that I do not display. My spare bedroom closet is filled with these unwanted items. He knows I can afford to buy the things I like.

Recently he gave me two gifts — both new — neither of which I feel are appropriate for me. I appreciate the thought, but why would he continue to do this? He can clearly see they are not on display in my home, which would indicate I don’t like or want them.

This man is not a cheapskate. He takes me for nice dinners, movies, brings flowers and chocolates, as well. I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Should I continue to accept the gifts and pretend I’m thrilled?

I don’t want to appear to be ungrateful or spoiled, because he is kind and generous.

Jane Doe in The South

Dear Jane: Before this man spends any more money on gifts you put in a closet, have a talk with him. Explain that while you appreciate the thought behind the trinkets he gives you, you have different tastes, and suggest that the next time he wants to give you something that you pick it out “together.”

It doesn’t take a crystal ball to see a yard sale in your future.

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