Abby: Man’s house not big enough for wife’s grandkids

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: I have been with my wife for 16 years. She has a grown daughter who’s the mother of eight kids, but she only has five with her at this time. The daughter got evicted, and all of a sudden she brought her belongings to the house. She didn’t ask or anything, she just showed up with the five kids and they are driving me up the wall. I already have two adolescent kids, so seven ain’t heaven.

I’ve tried to talk with my wife, but she doesn’t listen. I’m fed up looking for other accommodations. They have been here for two weeks and — by the way — my sons are now in school while her five are running wild in the house. Am I wrong for leaving?

Needs Own Space

Dear Needs: Not in my book. Your mistake was in letting your wife’s daughter’s eviction become your problem. I don’t know whose name is on the lease or title to your place, but it’s time to discuss this with an attorney.

If you don’t, you may have more trouble getting the woman and her brood out of there in the future.

Dear Abby: I love to cook for my family. My granddaughter has now become a vegan. It has taken away my enjoyment for the fun meals we used to have. I can no longer cook for her, and it has changed the family dynamics. How can I cope with this without being angry?

Sad Down South

Dear Sad: Allow me to offer two suggestions. Either have your granddaughter bring food with her she can eat, or widen your repertoire by learning to make a vegan dish the entire family can enjoy along with her.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.