Abby: Teen treated like dirt should dust off, move on

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: It has been two years, and I haven’t been able to get over my first love. I just graduated from high school and I’ll soon be 18, but I still can’t get used to the idea that he’s gone. When we broke up, he made me feel like dirt.

We had been a couple since my freshman year, and he dumped me at the beginning of my junior year because I didn’t want to give him my virginity. Later I discovered he had been cheating on me with my best friend. Please help.

Can’t Move On

Dear Can’t Move On: Why did you allow him to make you feel like “dirt”? Be GLAD you didn’t have sex with him. If you HAD, he would probably have cheated on you anyway.

You have your whole life ahead of you. Please don’t waste one more second of it looking over your shoulder and pining for someone who would punish you for hanging onto your values.

Dear Abby: My 11-year-old daughter recently asked to have a sleepover with some of her best friends. She’s part of a “club” with five other girls. Four of them are her best friends, so she invited them. However, my daughter isn’t close with a fifth girl, “Debbie.” They don’t hang out at school and barely hang out at club activities.

When Debbie’s mother found out my daughter had invited the others, she accused me of excluding Debbie intentionally. I received a rude text from her saying they were quitting the club.

In the past, we have gone above and beyond to keep her daughter included in the club activities, but when it comes to my daughter wanting to hang out with her friends outside of that, I feel she should be able to invite whoever she wants. Should I have made my daughter invite Debbie even though they aren’t really friends?

Mean Mom

Dear Mean Mom: Obviously, Debbie is close enough with some of the other girls that they told her about the sleepover. Your daughter may not like Debbie as much as she likes the other “club” members — which seems more like a clique to me — but I don’t think that’s a reason to exclude or attempt to isolate her. Because all of the other girls were asked, Debbie should not have been snubbed. For a moment, put yourself in her shoes.

Dear Abby: I have many friends with grandchildren, two of whom love to show me photos of them. I don’t mind looking at a few, but recently, during a two-hour lunch, one friend insisted on showing me pictures and videos the entire time. Another friend has four five-minute videos I’m supposed to watch.

I show pictures of my grandkids only occasionally. Would it be rude if I say, “I’d love to see a couple, but remember — I have eight grandchildren and more than 700 photos and videos on MY phone’’?

Bleary-Eyed in California

Dear Bleary-Eyed: I don’t think that’s rude. It might be an effective reminder that granny-bragging is a two-way street.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.