Abby: Mom of heroin addicts seeks support

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: My daughter and son are heroin addicts. After living through this hell for 11 years, I have reached my breaking point. My daughter, who just turned 18, is in jail.

My heart is broken. Therapists, parent sessions, etc. haven’t helped.

I’m 60 years old and should be retiring, but my retirement money was all spent on rehabs, etc. I won’t even go into the many items that were stolen from me.

How do I move on?

I’m so depressed I can’t get out of bed in the morning, and I cry all day. I don’t want to take meds for depression because drugs have caused all my misery. My marriage is falling apart too.

How do I carry on with this misery?

Miserable in Connecticut

Dear Miserable: The way to carry on is to let it go. If you haven’t heard of Nar-Anon, you should check into it. It’s a support group for the family and friends of people who are addicted to narcotics, based on the principles of Al-Anon, which is for the loved ones of alcoholics. Help is as near as your computer. Visit to find a group near you, and you will find that you are not as alone as you feel right now.

Dear Abby: Recently, my boss told me she had asked me to do something, but I am 100 percent positive that she didn’t. I don’t feel like I can contradict her because I’m afraid it would make me look bad.

It has happened only once or twice in the last few months, but what should I do if it continues?

I don’t want my employee reviews to suffer because of it. Please tell me how to handle it.

At A Loss in Florida

Dear At A Loss: I wish you had revealed more about your relationship with your boss and mentioned how many people work there.

Could she be stressed? Or having problems with her memory? Or could you? If there are more employees than just you, did anyone witness your boss ask you to do what she claimed?

If not, and this happens again, you may need to talk to her about it because of your concerns about your work performance.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.