Abby: Teen is tasked with cooking thanksgiving dinner
Dear Abby: I am a 17-year-old girl and somewhat spoiled. My mother delivers breakfast in bed to me daily. My dad eats a burger for dinner, but Mom cooks a ribeye steak with a loaded baked potato for me.
I don’t know how to cook, but Dad says I must cook a complete Thanksgiving dinner with no assistance! My smartphone will help, but do you have any ideas?
Worried About Turkeys
Dear Worried: Mastering the basics of cooking is an important skill you will need when you no longer live with your parents. Your father has the right idea, but he’s going about it the wrong way. Expecting you to go from not knowing how to boil water to producing an entire Thanksgiving dinner without help is unrealistic, to say the least.
You and your mother should prepare the dinner together, and she should guide you as you prepare one or two of the dishes. This will ensure that there will BE a home-cooked feast, rather than a disaster after which your family will wind up in a restaurant.
Dear Abby: I am an adult student in my late 20s. I had multiple “jobs” and careers before I finally settled on teaching. Until I finish my degree, however, I am working in a customer service job to pay the bills. This, combined with my youthful appearance, has meant I must deal with people who assume I am a teenager and who treat me with disrespect.
My late grandmother always said that polite people should hold their tongues, so can you please inform your readers that because the person tending to their needs may look like “a kid,” it’s no excuse for saying things like, “I don’t want to talk to some kid; where’s your supervisor?” By the way, Abby, I AM the supervisor.
Older Than He Looks in Iowa
Dear Older: I’m pleased to remind them, but an appropriate response to the person demanding to see the supervisor would be, “I AM the supervisor. Now, how may I help you?”
Dear Abby: We live down near my boyfriend’s mother. Our 3-year-old daughter spends a few hours there while I’m at work and her dad is running errands. My daughter loves her grandparents, so I don’t mind her spending time with them.
The problem I have is, my boyfriend’s mother repeats everything I say to my daughter right after I say it when I ask her to do something! It drives me crazy. My boyfriend tells me to talk to her, but I have no idea what to say. Please help.
Slower in California
Dear Slower: Yes, but it may involve making the meal even longer. If there’s a topic you would like to explore with him, put down your fork, swallow your food and speak up. In Europe it’s common for people to linger over their meal and communicate with each other. This practice not only fosters deeper relationships, but there are also health benefits to eating slowly. Because you’re a couple, you should feel comfortable enough to ask him to slow down so your conversation can flow more easily.
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