Dear Abby: I’m frustrated that guests in my home almost never use the guest towels I’ve put out for them in the bathroom. Why do they do this?

I remember a little poem in your column that addresses this. I’d like to clip it and put it in there next to the towels. Please print it again!

Good Hostess in Clover, S.C.

Dear Hostess: With pleasure — here it is:

“A Guest Towel Speaks”

by Mabel Craddock

Please use me, Guest;

Don’t hesitate.

Don’t turn your back

Or vacillate.

Don’t dry your hands

On petticoat,

On handkerchief,

Or redingote.

I’m here to use;

I’m made for drying.

Just hanging here

Gets very tiring.

Dear Abby: Do you think it is right that my parents disowned me because I’m seeing a guy they don’t like?

I don’t think it is. I’m 25, and I live on my own with my son.

Not Right in Washington

Dear Not Right: Not knowing the guy or your parents’ reason for disliking him, I can only suggest that their reaction seems extreme. By age 25 you should be mature enough to decide something like this without being emotionally blackmailed. Please recognize that if you give in to this, they will be making your decisions for you until they are no longer on this side of the sod.

Dear Abby: My husband tosses and turns, snores, talks and sings in his sleep. In short, I cannot get my sleep when we’re in the same bed. He insists that I sleep with him because “if I don’t, it would create a rift in our marriage.” When I tell him I love him but I need to get my sleep, he says that love is only a word for me if I don’t act upon it by sleeping next to him. It has gotten so bad I am thinking of leaving him. Advice?

Only A Word in Ohio

Dear Only A Word: Rather than leave, schedule an appointment for both of you with your family physician. Because your “musical” husband is tone-deaf when he hears you need a solid night’s sleep, let the doctor impress upon him how important sleep is for good mental and physical health.

Many happily married couples sleep in separate beds — and sometimes even separate rooms — and have great relations in and out of bed. When there are sleep problems, sleeping apart isn’t a matter of rejection; it’s common sense.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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