Abby: Freshman’s plans include breast enhancement

Dear Abby
Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: My wife’s niece, a high school senior, is a beautiful girl with an excellent, well-proportioned figure. Like many girls her age, she’s narcissistic and obsessed with her looks, and constantly posting pictures of herself on social media.

She’s off to college in a few months, and “in order to ensure she’s attractive to boys,” wants to get a boob job. She works in a clothing store and has saved toward the cost.

Her mother and aunt are supportive and willing to help her pay for it. Their logic is, they both had boob jobs. However, they had theirs done well into their 40s, after their children were born and as clear-thinking adults. I feel being supportive of an 18-year-old making such a major decision for what I think is the wrong reason is irresponsible parenting.

I know it’s absolutely none of my business, and I won’t say a word, but I wonder what your commonsense opinion is. They do read your column.

Rational Uncle In The West

Dear Uncle: I agree with you that getting breast enhancement surgery to be more attractive to boys is doing it for the wrong reason. But my “commonsense” opinion is that if the cosmetic surgery is approved by the girl’s mother and aunt, for your own safety, you should stay out of the minefield.

Dear Abby: Over the past few months, my husband and I have been getting phone calls claiming we have been charged with a crime and face dire consequences if we don’t return the call immediately. As a recent law enforcement retiree, my husband knows these calls are bogus.

Please remind your readers NO ONE is ever informed of legitimate legal action against them by a pre-recorded phone call. This includes the IRS. Notice of legitimate action is sent through the postal service or personally delivered by a court-designated representative, usually the police.

I don’t want any of your readers, especially retirees, to fall victim to this scam.

Retirees, Watch Out!

Dear Readers: If you haven’t heard or read about this kind of scam — which can be very scary — please share this item with friends and relatives. I received one of these messages about six months ago, and one of my staff members got one a few days ago. Do not engage with these con artists. If you happen to pick up the phone, say nothing and just hang up.

Dear Abby: I’m 18 and have been working a minimum-wage job for a little over a year. I’ve saved up a good bit of money, and it has taken a while to do, but I really want to travel. Should I be responsible and keep saving or use the money to buy a plane ticket?

Broke And Restless

Dear B & R: I think you already know the answer to your question, but allow me to point out that the more money you save, the farther (and longer) you will be able to travel.

Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.