Abby: Friend lies, and it’s stressing her out
Dear Abby: I am a 15-year-old girl. I have been friends with “Amanda” for two years. She helped me through a really tough time, which is how we became friends.
Recently, she has been going around telling people she is dating someone famous from a band and claiming she gets to hang out with them all the time. It is really stressful.
My other friend and I don’t understand why Amanda is doing this. When we have asked her about it, she always gets defensive and lies to us. She blocked my friend and me on Instagram, and that really upset us as well.
We don’t know what to do. .
Dear Stressed Out: People lie for various reasons – to make others think they are important, popular, smarter or more successful than they really are. Sometimes it works. More often, when the truth comes out, the liar looks foolish and untrustworthy.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to fix Amanda. You tried and it didn’t work, so step aside. This is a lesson she will have to learn on her own.
Dear Abby: My daughter invited me to a celebration of life for a schoolmate of hers. Everyone gathered outside at a park pavilion to listen to a minister and friends or family speak about the deceased.
Twenty minutes before the last speaker was done I noticed my 22-year-old grandson had gone inside the building where there was food for everyone.
When the speakers were finished, the minister invited everyone to go inside for food and refreshments. When my daughter and I went inside, there sat my grandson eating away. He was the only person doing so. I asked my daughter why he was eating before everyone had even been invited, and her answer was, “He’s a growing boy.”
I thought what he did was rude and uncalled for. Am I too old school, or am I out of touch with the new “way”?
– Granddad in Kansas
Dear Granddad: You are not out of touch. Your grandson’s behavior was selfish and insensitive. Someone should have mentioned that fact to him. He’s not a growing boy. He’s an adult with boorish manners.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been trying to have a child for a while now. I am finally pregnant, but he is on the fence about wanting to keep the pregnancy because of the possibility of it being twins.
–Worried Lovesick Wife
Dear Worried: He should have considered this possibility when he put you on the path to motherhood and be grateful if the baby/babies are born healthy. Remind him that regardless of whether there will be one or two bundles of joy, your husband will be responsible until he, she or they are adults. If he can’t accept that, then what you should do is marry someone mature and stable enough to accept his responsibilities as a husband the next time around.
Contact Dear Abby at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.