Abby: Give relationship one last shot
Dear Abby: About a year ago, I confessed to one of my close guy friends that I liked him. He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship. I haven’t brought it up since. I have now found out his roommate is interested in me. I politely declined his advances, but I can’t help but wonder if the guy I like turned me down because he knew his roommate liked me.
Even though it’s been over a year since I confessed my feelings, there hasn’t been a day I haven’t thought about him. I have a gut feeling that he’s where I’m supposed to be, but I don’t want to make another advance if he doesn’t want to be anything more than friends. I’m afraid of ruining our friendship.
We hang out in groups all the time and have deep conversations just the two of us, but we’ve never hung out alone, and he doesn’t initiate text messages or phone calls. Still, the connection we have when we’re together is undeniable and can’t be ignored. Should I tell him I still like him and risk being embarrassed again? Or should I stay quiet and live a life thinking “what if?”
Ms. Dangerously in Love
Dear Ms. Dangerously: Because you are dissatisfied with the way things are and thinking about a romantic relationship with this person every day, it’s time to get a definite answer from him. Tell him you care about him and ask one more time. But if his answer is still no, then accept that it isn’t meant to be and move on.
Dear Abby: How many times must one save the date for a destination “wedding”? Three and a half years ago my husband was asked to be a groomsman in a destination wedding. We agreed and saved the date, paid for travel and accommodations (none refundable). The wedding was canceled because the bride was expecting.
We endured the same process again, only for her to be eight months pregnant for that date. It was canceled again. We were then asked to take off work to drive to a private ceremony on a week’s notice, only for that ceremony to be canceled. After that, the couple subsequently married privately.
We have just received another save the date! Are we obligated to go? My husband believes he is.?
– Never a Bridesmaid
Dear Never: Why he would still feel obligated to go through with this charade is beyond me. But be glad you are married to someone as patient, loyal and responsible as your husband is – all the things his friend is not.
Dear Readers: Don’t forget to turn your clocks forward one hour tonight at bedtime. Daylight saving time begins at 2 a.m. tomorrow. For me, it signals the coming of spring with longer, brighter days and warmer weather – everything I love!
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